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Keeping Emotions in Check When Buying a Home

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Keeping Emotions in Check When Buying a Home

Buying a home is an exciting journey, but it's also one that can be full of emotional ups and downs. It’s easy to get swept up in the thrill of finding what seems like the perfect place, but letting your emotions lead the way can sometimes lead to hasty decisions and buyer’s remorse. Here’s a practical guide on how to keep your emotions in check when purchasing a home.

1. Set Clear Goals Before You Start Looking Before you even start browsing listings, have a clear understanding of what you need in a home. Consider your budget, desired location, size, and any must-have features. This list of priorities will serve as your anchor, helping you stay grounded and make rational decisions based on your actual requirements rather than getting carried away by a property's aesthetic appeal.

2. Stick to Your Budget One of the biggest emotional triggers during the home buying process is falling in love with a property that’s out of your budget. To avoid this, firmly decide on your budget before you start house hunting and commit to sticking to it. If you’re tempted by a more expensive home, remind yourself of the financial strain it could cause and whether it aligns with your long-term financial goals.

3. Don’t Skip the Home Inspection Always insist on a thorough home inspection before sealing the deal. Emotions can sometimes lead us to overlook potential costly repairs and maintenance issues. A professional home inspector will provide an unbiased report on the home’s condition, helping you make a more informed decision and potentially saving you from huge unexpected expenses down the line.

4. Take Your Time While it’s important to move quickly in a competitive market, don’t rush into a decision. Take your time to visit the home a few times at different times of the day. This approach allows you to get a realistic feel of the property, the neighborhood, and any potential drawbacks you may have missed during the first visit.

5. Keep Options Open Never pin all your hopes on one property. Maintain a list of potential homes that meet your criteria. Having multiple options can help reduce the disappointment if a deal falls through and keeps you from making panic-driven decisions.

6. Seek Professional Advice Always work with a reputable real estate agent who understands your needs and the local market. A good agent will help you stay focused on your goals and provide objective advice to guide your decisions. Their expertise can be invaluable in helping you navigate the complexities and emotions of the home buying process.

7. Reflect Before You Commit When you think you’ve found the right home, take a step back and reflect. Consider how the home meets your initial criteria and review your notes and photos from previous visits. Discuss the decision with family or friends who know your goals and can provide a fresh perspective.

8. Prepare for Some Compromise No home will have everything on your wishlist unless you’re building from scratch. Be prepared to make some compromises. Decide in advance which features you are willing to compromise on and which are non-negotiable. This mindset will help you make decisions more objectively.

Conclusion: Buying a home should be a well-thought-out decision rather than an impulsive move driven by emotions. By staying disciplined, seeking professional advice, and keeping a clear focus on your needs and goals, you can navigate the home buying process more smoothly and make a decision you’ll be happy with for years to come. Remember, a home isn’t just a place to live, but also an important investment, and approaching it with a balanced perspective is crucial.

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Complaints prompt Carlsbad to remove traffic circles City will install all-way stop signs instead of roundabouts at two Kelly Drive intersections A vehicle maneuvers through the traffic circle at Park Drive and Kelly Drive in this view looking north up Kelly Drive. Above left is Laguna Riviera City Park, behind it is Kelly Elementary School. (Charlie Neuman/For The San Diego Union-Tribune) A vehicle maneuvers through the traffic circle at Park Drive and Kelly Drive in this view looking north up Kelly Drive. Above left is Laguna Riviera City Park, behind it is Kelly Elementary School. (Charlie Neuman/For The San Diego Union-Tribune) By PHIL DIEHL | [email protected] | The San Diego Union-Tribune UPDATED: June 20, 2025 at 6:15 AM PDT Carlsbad’s City Council voted unanimously Tuesday to remove two traffic circles, or small roundabouts, that residents said were “a failed experiment” installed in 2013 as a pilot project. Homeowners near the traffic circles at two intersections on Kelly Drive said the traffic circles encourage speeding and create a safety hazard for children walking to the nearby Kelly Elementary School. “It is a mess, truly a mess,” said Sheila O’Neill, who volunteers as a crossing guard at the school. “The roundabout nudges cars closer to the crosswalk and kids crossing the street … all-way stops would be great. It would make next year so much better.” Traffic circles are different from roundabouts, although the terms often are used interchangeably. Traffic circles require less space and generally are placed in residential areas. Roundabouts are larger, sometimes with landscaping, usually have pedestrian crosswalks set back from the intersection, and are installed on busier streets and thoroughfares. Carlsbad approved the interim traffic circles for two intersections on Kelly Drive — at each side of Kelly Elementary School — one at Park Drive and the other at Hillside Drive. Each one is essentially a circle of small ceramic bumps or domes on the asphalt at the center of the intersection for vehicles to drive around. The bumps are small enough that cars can drive over without damage. “This was a well-intentioned experiment, but it’s time to acknowledge its failure,” said Steve Linke, a resident and former member of the city’s Traffic Safety and Mobility Commission. Council members agreed with the speakers. One of the options presented to the council was to proceed with a final design, environmental studies and permits for roundabouts to replace the Kelly Drive traffic circles. Instead, the council voted to remove the traffic circles, resurface the roadway with a slurry seal, and install all-way stop signs. Also, the council directed city staffers to consider the costs and benefits of other possible improvements such as bike lanes, crosswalks and curb ramps, and bring that information back at a future meeting. “It’s a good opportunity to step back, catch our breath and listen to what our residents are saying,” said Councilmember Keven Shin. “I feel like an all-way stop would create a lot of safety for the kids.” Teenagers on e-bikes ride south on Kelly Drive approaching the traffic circle at Hillside Drive, shown at right, where underground pipeline work continue in the middle of the circle. At right is the east end of Hillside Drive. (Charlie Neuman / For The San Diego Union-Tribune) Teenagers on e-bikes ride south on Kelly Drive approaching the traffic circle at Hillside Drive, at right, where underground pipeline work is underway in the middle of the circle. At right is the east end of Hillside Drive. (Charlie Neuman/For The San Diego Union-Tribune) Earlier this year, the City Council hit the brakes on the long-planned installation of a roundabout to replace the traffic signals at the beachfront intersection of Tamarack Avenue and Carlsbad Boulevard. That project also faced widespread community opposition. And the council has said that sometime soon it will reconsider a still unbuilt roundabout that it approved in 2023 for the intersection of Cannon Road and Carlsbad Boulevard. Roundabouts and traffic circles are elements of a “complete streets” program that Carlsbad has been working on for several years. The program’s goal is to prioritize safety for everyone on the roads, whether they are driving, walking or biking. In March the City Council approved five traffic circles to be installed at intersections in the older downtown Barrio neighborhood starting in 2026. Barrio residents generally supported the installations because they are expected to help control traffic and reduce speeding. The city obtained about $4 million in federal funding for the Barrio traffic circles. Originally Published: June 19, 2025 at 7:50 AM PDT

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